WORLD OF RAWR

Here are some random things I think about this site in no particular order:

• Oh really? You'll fly here if I manage the lodging? I will totally take you up on that. Drop a message in my box.
• I really should make a mockup for the mobile version of this site; the interface is frustrating. Let me kill this boss monster first.
• I wonder if I should record something and post it. What, though?
• I really should have a dedicated wrestling trip.
• I wonder what these people are like at a club.
• You really need a hug. I'll volunteer. I'm serious.
• Wrestlers need an island to themselves.
• I'll need to be a model before I wrestle some of these people. I think it just comes with the territory. Motivation, I suppose.
• Does this make me look fat? Yup. Off to the private gallery with you.
• You are such a sweetheart in person in spite of your profile.
• You are exactly what your profile says.
• All of these styles and special rules for matches are so interesting. How can I learn them all?
• Is joining a BJJ class a rite of passage?
• Which yoga class should I join?
• I'd love a reason to wear these wrestling shoes...
• You are going down.
• You would likely manhandle me and I am 100% OK with it.
• Mmmmm, still on the fence about pro; where would I find boots my size?
• I really want abs and I really like cheeseburgers... Fuck...
• That age? Really? I need your genes and diet. Stat.

I did a bit of math today and found out that the average for the ages of people I've wrestled - most of which I've enjoyed - comes to about 37 years old. The oldest one I've wrested so far is 57 and that person is still one of my favorites to date.

This to say that, I think there is something to be said about age when it comes to people we prefer to wrestle. Before we get into all of that, let me go ahead and state the obvious:

• Wrestling is, in fact, a sexual outlet for some.
• The choices that we make in the people we wrestle can be/are partly subject to physical things we find attractive.
• People generally tend to wrestle people very close to their age on average (within 3-5 years on average).

However, I have to also say that we have to be careful about simply dismissing someone because of age. Weight I can understand because that is a legit safety concern; wrestling a person 60 lbs. heavier than me could cause issues. Wrestling someone 30 years older than me? Not the same thing.

I can understand where, depending on the person and how they pitch themselves, someone much older could come across as "creepy", but IMO, things that are unsettling or creepy for me don't have an age; if it is creepy from a 60-year old, it's creepy from a 30-year old, too.

So hell, if no one else is going to make bridges and relationships with these people full of experiences and stories to tell, I'll do it. Some of you already know because of my messages to you. Some of you I've met or yet to meet and I'm looking forward to it.

Long live wrestling and friendships, timeless as they are.

o/

I'm back in the muggy GA, but Santa Monica was magical for a work trip.

The beach was a 15 minute walk. One of the guys from Global made an account here and favorited me. Thanking him got a lecture and I chuckled about it while reading his profile.

You know those moments when you realize someone that normally is thousands of miles away is really close and you organize things at lightning speeds?

Yeah. That happened.

I had work and dinner, but with guys that like to be relaxed so I got back to my hotel just in time to relax before meeting this guy.

He was shorter than I thought but profike accurate in every aspect. We talked a bit and unwound, changed clothes, rolled a bit and laughed a lot. He got me in some good holds and he's pretty strong. I thoroughly enjoyed that.

We hated having to end things a couple of hours later but he's coming to GA so that's a plus.

I thought about how I packed for the trip. I've started including wrestling clothes just in case and I think that says a lot about how much I'm getting into all of this.

Until next roll. o/

Well, a random stroke of WTF came across my desk at work, so I'll be there Wednesday and Thursday night.

You're welcome.

At some point, I think we all end up having those moments that we would like to retract or redo. Specifically, we wrestle people and then, in retrospect, consider if we would have made that same choice.

Kind of like going to a restaurant, eating, then going "Hm. That was OK..." but not as good as you remembered.

In my case, the wrestling was cool but the aftermath left me in an odd space like "Is this what I wanted?" for a day or two. In my world, the erotic element is more happy (and enjoyed) afterthought... except in this case. In this case, it was a bit more like a checkpoint or signpost than a euphoric aside.

But you live and learn. I'm sure this lesson will come in handy sooner than later and that lesson is: "listen to yourself the first time. It is OK to change your mind."

That bit of musing aside, I hope you're having an enjoyable day.

PREFACE

HOW I FEEL ABOUT IT

Let's get to it. I'll use bullet points for easy reading.

1. Cyber is not a preference of mine. I have no interest in it as it is not my thing.
2. My preferences have no bearing on you. If you want to cyber, then go for it. I might even read it. Since this site allows you to cyber, do so to your heart's content.
3. Age has no bearing on preferences. From the least serious of us to the most serious of us, no one on this site is in the UFC or Olympics, so it is unlikely that we are making a living from being here or wrestling with others. We are collecting different experiences, making friends, and whatever else as we want to because we're adults and that means we can do things we prefer to do like wrestling, kickboxing, or cybering. The fact that people take hours out of their day to badmouth preferences where they are not harmful to self/others or illegal is a form of stupidity I don't know how to wrap my head around. If you're not interested in something I am interested in, feel free to just... you know... move on.
4. Clarity is key. This goes for everyone on the site regardless of preference. We have profiles and we use them to put information in full view of everyone about what we like or what we don't. Not everyone will like what you like: Welcome to Earth. However, someone will and that's where the fun stuff happens. Be clear about your preferences so we know what we're getting into. A lot of people here like the physicality of a meetup, so that is the norm here. If that is something you are not into, the onus is on you to be very specific and clear about that.
5. You're not a freak. No more so than the rest of us. We should be past the age and mentality where we have or make time to ridicule people for liking what they like and pursuing it.

There's a lot of talk on both sides of the spectrum and I get it. Meeting people that aren't what you hoped is hard. Meeting people that have the same interest but are hella far away sucks. Meeting people that aren't into physical meetups is rough. Maybe there are ways to restructure the site so it is easier for people to do and find what they are looking for, but dragging people through the mud and trampling on them because they like something you don't doesn't do anything for the community but cause division that we don't need.

Be at peace and do your thing. Let other people do the same.

Hello there, sports fans!

I'll be visiting Seattle in a few weeks from now so if you've ever wanted me to visit, you'll soon have that wish.

Throw something in my inbox and see what happens.

Reminder: That Starts Tomorrow!!

Well, hello one and all! I've been thinking about what to write here to share with all of you and decided I'd create a spot for all of you to [A]sk [M]e [A]nything (in case you wondered what the title was about).

I'll check on this every week, so leave me a comment here (or send a message) about anything you want to know. I will probably not answer everything, but what I do answer will be as real as can be.

Let the fun begin.

Just a heads-up that, as with any trip where I meet Marc, there will be new pics for you to drool over soon. I had fun and made more than a few silly faces.

So as a follow-up to this story, I thought I'd mention that there was a happy ending. The wrestler here wrote to me, still a bit miffed about the whole set of events. After I took some time to calm his (very much unwarranted) rage, I explained the entire situation and timeline from the beginning.

The misunderstandings cleared up, he apologized and we are chatting up a storm on whatsapp about what we'd like to do when I'm back in Italy (hopefully for vacation, so watch out Opon).

Every match seems to bring something fun and interesting to the fore. I'm starting to wonder about roles and what they even mean in terms of my experiences. I recently wrestled Judo Sniper, AX, and PJ within the last month and all of these experiences have been wildly different, but have a few common threads.

Also: my recommendations are getting me in trouble. The good kind, mind you, but still...

I find myself missing a few of you. That is to say, I look for connections with anyone I wrestle, but when I think about people I would love to wrestle right this second... mmm....

Aside from that though, for each of you that I've wrestled with, or communicate with about wrestling on a regular, I appreciate the gift that you give me in just having a spot to walk on the wild side a bit and enjoy being a little less in control than I normally am. So thank you.