WORLD OF RAWR

A few weeks ago I read this post and thought I would take this theory on a test drive... in reverse. Now, for those of you that could not be bothered to follow that link, I'm supposed to do these things to write a perfect rant:

1. Be Vague. I really had every intention of doing this, but I already told you which blog post I'm referring to, out of the thousands you could read trying to guess what I'm referring to. Oops.
2. Misinformation. I couldn't possibly perform this because I've given you a means to read and verify anything I'd say about the blog I linked to by giving you the link. That said, I also suck at misinforming people, so here's my thoughts in pure form: ugh... just ugh so much ugh. I read so many blogs from so many people and it's a site and people have feelings so they can say things and we can just let that be okay, right? No? We can't? But why? Like whenever a ranting blog, of any kind, happens, there are so many people who are willing to spend the time and energy with all the other things going on to....
3. Unconstructive. Like, I don't know... just can we be more understanding/empathetic/anything like "I hear you, bud" and maybe less anything else? What better way to disarm someone who expects resistance than to just go with it and let them express themselves. Hear people out, understand that people have both good and bad days I think that's called blending in Judo, but I could be wrong. I wanted to be unconstructive, but I have too simple a point and too clear a mind to do that, so I'm still fucked.

So here's the kicker and the point of all that stuff you just read: even if I do the opposite of what this post says, there's no guarantee that writings like this are going to be seen in a favorable light. For some people, any use of this blog feature that is not "here's an adventure I had" or "here's a fantasy story of some kind" is going to be wrong. Always.

However, we all have the ability to be these super mature people that can just read something, go "huh..." and keep moving without a word of comment. We could do that for like ten things, fifty things, one hundred things....

Like we do for literally everything else in the world.

Now that probably makes me ineligible for beers or whatnot, but I'll be over here with a green tea and I'm happy to share with whomever comes up and wants to converse about any of this... or not. Up to you, really, but I'm going to get some sleep.

PREFACE

It's complicated. We're drawn here for the wrestling, but as I've seen, wrestling the only thing everyone wants. If you're hardcore here for nothing but the fight, then you can likely ignore this entry since it's not really for you. Otherwise, keep reading.

Fair warning: I'm going to type lots of words.

THINGS WE LOOK FOR

As I was saying, I think it's complicated, but I've managed to put together that we are looking for:

1. A battle
2. A companion
3. A lover

"But why would you come here looking for...." OK, I hear you, but consider any time in life where you went thinking you would want/feel/think X about something and ended up wanting/feeling/thinking Y:

• I thought I'd like that movie
• I thought I'd hate that song
• I thought I'd like these people
• I thought I wanted a pizza, but I really want a chicken sandwich

This thing - and any thing really - that involves people always has a potential for that kind of a turn. It starts like, "hey, I just want to find people and wrestle...."

...but suddenly, one day: a friend.
...but suddenly, one day: it is more (or less) erotic than you thought.
...but suddenly, one day: this is a lot lonelier than I thought it would be...

That's the thing, right? It's never just one thing or another. For many, it's a blend of more than a few things and feelings and in all of that it is easy to get lost and start doing or feeling things without knowing what is happening.

For those of you in that spot, the one thing I suggest is honesty - primarily and especially with yourself - about how you feel and where you're at. Things like this make the journey a lot easier and enjoyable.

Dishonesty, on the other hand, has caused cancelled accounts because the wave of who you are channels itself into things you have to take months to process.

TENSION

As I so often do, I checked the "New" section to see what's what and noted a picture from one of the guys here. Went to check it out. Nice, but nothing that warranted a comment, so I let it be. Saw that they visited me an hour later, so I thought I'd say something this go-round since I'd visited them a few times before.

Blocked.

Could you even? I couldn't even. I couldn't begin to even and if I could have, I would have had to call an extra friend to make things odd because I just couldn't.

Ha, as if. I shrugged and kept on cruising because that's the game for you.

TRAVEL

I'm finally going to take one of a string of much needed vacations. This first one is to Italy to visit some friends and hopefully get some wrestling in. Previous experience has taught me pretty well, communication-wise, so I've started trying to get some things on the books. So far with success. I'll also be doing a brief drop into Brussels for being able to show a bit of love on the way over.

I bet I'll wrestle more that week than I have in like three months here in GA. Ah well, also part of the game.

I should be hopping around the US and I'm hoping Cali gets on that list because I have a growing list of you guys I want to visit there. NY is also a must because grandparents. I'm open to suggestions, so feel free to drop notes if weekend trips are in order.

o/

As it happens from time to time, I was asked a question via text about erotic wrestling. I answered this particular question with a "no" as, for the part I read, the answer was, in fact "no".

At this point, I get a string of apologies and what seems to indicate that the person on the other end of my texts was agitated for reasons unknown to me; I said nothing upsetting, just "no", but decided I'd ask "Did I miss something?"

This is where we get into "No. Nevermind." followed by me forcing an open conversation to clear things up. This took at least a flight, a plane, a bus, a rickshaw, a carrier pigeon, and a 20 minute walk from a particular Starbucks in order to resolve as, "Oh, I should have clarified that. Here's what I meant to say..."

That whole process took hours when it could have taken mere moments, so now I'm slightly irritated for a good 20 minutes (which is 20 too long) because it was such. A. Stupid. Issue. [>_< #]

I get it. Sometimes, we misread things, but for the love of common sense, if someone asks you to clarify something you've asked in case they misunderstood or missed something, take the time to clarify what you are asking. You would think that on this site, via which most people communicate in writing, we'd have that sorted by now.

I got to visit plenty of family, but didn't get a lot of anything else done aside from collecting a list of people that I want to wrestle and another focused lesson on how it is almost impossible to meet up with people without planning.

So here's what that list looks like:

• Stopbarking84
• NYCSubmission
• Competitive
• subguy21
• kickbox9119
• wrestlestud
• hunwrest
• njmuscguy1
• nyleanmuscle
• subscissors
• rjbklyn

And those are just the ones near NY. I can't even get into the others. Let's hope that I can get a match with these guys now that I'm home.

Come through, 2017. I need some rolls.

Also: new pics soon :D

So it's about that time! I'm taking a small trip with the family to Jersey and from there, I'll be visiting NY for a day or two to see relatives there. I'll have a bit of downtime while I'm around, so I hope I can see some of you while I'm out and about.

Here's to hoping!

Bonus: Merry Christmas.

So I headed to Fort Lauderdale during what had to be the rainiest weekend of the year; I was there for four days and it rained for all four of them.

The preface to this affair was being invited by one certain BrawlMart for a bit. I was hesitant, but Brawl is persistent and persuasive and I booked a trip to head down. That part went without much incident and I arrived early. He arrived a couple of hours later and from there we went to dinner to talk about the upcoming event.

From there, we checked into the hotel and that passed our Thursday.

THE FACTS

Friday was a quiet day of waiting for this person or that to arrive out of those who were slated to attend. I got to see Dean and Tom Friday evening who, along with Brawl and I, went to a movie to pass the evening until | JJ arrived.

I went to chill with JJ - who I had been looking forward to meeting for quiet some time - for the evening and chatted things up a bit. That passed Friday evening into Saturday where I milled about catching up on Pokemon until about 2PM. From there, I had my first match of the fest with Chuck. It was intense and entertaining and fun. You can read about that match in the recommends section.

From there, I got some dinner with JJ and then took a nap. I ended the evening with a trip to the hot tub and then more sleep. This passed into Sunday where things were on the quiet side for most of the day until that evening where, as a last hurrah, I got to wrestle with this guy who drove for hours to hang out with us for the day. I'll write my recommends on that later, but it was a notable first time that I got to teach someone something. It felt good to be on that end of things.

THE THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS

If I had made this trip purely for wrestling, I think I would have been a bit put out considering. However, the people I did get to meet made it worth the trip in the end. I got to see things and learn about the city and got some perspective I wouldn't get just hanging about in my hometown.

That was interesting. I need to get out more.

The people I got to wrestle with were cool. I also got wrestling gear, so that was nice. I have been asked to post pictures, so be on the lookout.

On the other hand, because of weather, when there wasn't wrestling going on, there was nothing else to do.

But then there was this one guy who hit on me at random. There was a lot I learned about things that seem to be specific to gay people. That was eye-opening. I know some pretty cool places to stay for mostly reasonable prices in Fort Lauderdale should I visit there. Although truth be told, I'll be in Key West on my next trip (go ahead and book now).

I think the thing I was the most blah about was the amount of people that didn't show up and why. As an example, on a day of torrential downpour, I was informed that my potential match for the day got tickets to a football game and would be unable to make it. I chuckled and played pokemon on the way to a diner.

I couldn't begin to imagine the frustrations that an organizer of this sort of thing has to go through just to get people to appear, so my condolences, I guess.

The thing I was most happy about was, again, meeting everyone. Especially JJ. He's a sweetheart. Chuck was amazing and, thanks to him, I have a ton of visitors and people I'm talking to about future matches. He was great. Cub was cool. Brawl is eccentric and funny and kind and sharply sarcastic all at once. Great sense of humor.

Would I do this again? Likely, but I'd make more plans for side things to do in between, too.

With that, December is around the bend and with it comes a few trips I'm ready to plan. Between now and then, let's hope something fun happens. In fact, I do believe I see a message in my inbox...

o/

Hello there in TV land! A lot has happened since I last wrote. For one, I did finally get to wrestle with MuscChamp a couple of weeks back.

It was fantastic. He pretty handily beat me for one, but for another, we just had a lot of fun talking and rolling and back to convo for a while. I will enjoy meeting up with him again in the future for certain.

Aside that, I've run aground a small thing being organized by one Mr. Brawl Mart in a couple of days from now. Since then, there's been a fair bit of contact between myself and the wrestlers who may be either attending or in the area. The dialogs are interesting. Some people, I'm sure I want to wrestle. Some, I'm not sure. Still others are just in the air because I have a particular way of doing things and interacting with wrestlers.

One of them being I ask for a lot of information up front. Part of that - and the primary part - is just safety. There are other reasons, of course. I've mentioned all of that (and then some) here.

I don't think people are always used to that, so I'm a bit rough to deal with on that respect. Hell, I don't even meet people near me without doing that. I actually went to dinner with a couple of people either just before or just after wrestling. In the case of the "just after" crowd, we talked on the phone for a bit before meeting up. No exceptions so far.

Eh, I'm old fashioned I guess and that is OK with me.

Here's to hoping for fun times in FL. Maybe I'll snap something or two while I'm out.

o/

I've been jonesing for a roll like none other recently, but thought I'd put a note here about doing scary things.

Currently, I have.... I think it's like 16 past opponents or so and nothing brings opponents to you faster than having some. That said, much like you'd see in something like Kenichi, the more you do, the more you will want to do and the greater the challenges will be that find you.

For me, this seems to be coming at an accelerated rate in a lot of ways. I might be rolling with MuscChamp in a couple of weeks. He's a lot older than me, very well exercised, and has a ton of experience.

I had MississippiJock talk about possibly planning a match.

That's scary (In fact, I'd almost say terrifying, but my intense curiosity and eagerness for the experience prevents me from going that far). I don't think any of you have met me in person, but I'm not as big or muscular or [fill in the blank] as any of these people...

...but this is where I have to either step up and be the wrestler (or whatever else) I am going to become and rise to the challenge or be afraid forever.

Considering how little there actually is to be afraid from anyone you'd actually meet here, I'd say that fear is mostly illogical and robbing me (and maybe you) of what could be the beginning or furthering of something wonderful: more strength, more community awareness, bonding, friends, comrades... you know, the things we originally came here for.

So if you're not doing scary things, do them:

• Exchange the contact info.
• Get on a plane.
• Rent the hotel room.
• Plan the vacation (yes, just to meet and wrestle people).

Just.
Go.
Already.

And while you're at it, snap a photo.

Inspired by a chat a couple of nights ago, I'm going to give you the keys to the kingdom. Here's an answer to as many questions I can think of being asked so that you don't have to re-ask them and we can talk about fun things like my favorite places to shop.

• Are you aggressive? When I'm in that mood, yes. Normally, I'm chill as fuck.
• Do you like to wrestle seriously? Well, I seriously enjoy it if that's what you mean.
• Yeah, but do you like to win? Don't care. If I win, awesome. If not, awesome. I want to have fun, learn, test myself, and grow. You can do that whether you win or lose.
• What are you into? Most guys here like sub, so I've done more of that. Am I open to other things? Yup. Have I done them? Not really. Feel free to volunteer your time to amend that if you want.
• You into erotic or whatever? Eh. I can take or leave it. It's an interesting aside, but not a focus and people insisting on it being so is frustrating.
  • So can we fuck? No. That's on reserve.
  • That makes you sound like a prude. OK. Let's move along.
• So why do you wrestle? To have fun, make friends, learn, test myself, and get that exercise. Plus, it's a nice break from routine.
• Do you box? I don't really, but I wouldn't mind it.
• Do you like to fight hard? That's for enemies. If you want me to come at you like my life depends on it and I have to knock you out, then you'll need to speak to someone else.
• Are you competitive? That more about the tone of the match. I'll step up whatever tone is set and agreed to as long as we keep it safe and respectful.
• Are you good? Exactly how do you expect me to answer that? I don't know what the standards are around here, so if you want to know what I can do: fight me.
  • Are you strong? Fight me and find out.
  • Are you skilled? Fight me and decide for yourself.
  • Are you good at boxing/sub/pro/standup? Fight me and assess that.
• Can you host? Sure. As long as I have my own hotel room or you're in NC.
• Do you ever get out to [insert place]? I can go anywhere I want with enough time and planning. If you want to meet up, just talk to me about a plan and let's do the thing. Assuming I'm interested, things go pretty quick.
• Are you one of those people that are into [insert thing]? Refer to my profile for details.
• I like your profile pictures. Thanks!
• You have a nice body. Appreciated. I'm working on it, but cheeseburgers are so hard to give up.
• Do you cyber? No. Not my thing.
  • What about phone? No.

Hope you enjoyed. If you have extra questions that aren't covered here, let me know.