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Let's be real, trying to meet people at the gym can feel super awkward. It's a place where we're all focused on our own thing, so it's easy to feel like you're bothering someone if you try to start a conversation. Maybe you've been eying a specific guy and you want to get to know him better so you can take things beyond the gym.

I got inspired to write this post after seeing comments on my last one, and I wanted to share a few tips that have worked for me to make that first connection feel natural, not forced.

Step 1: Laying the groundwork
First, you gotta be smart about who you approach. Don't go up to someone you've only seen once. The key is to look for the regulars, the people you see often. And at the same time, make sure you're a familiar face too! Consistency is everything. When you show up regularly, you become more approachable. It's way easier to connect with someone who feels familiar than with a complete stranger.

Speaking of approachable, I've noticed that I tend to approach guys who look comfortable and confident. The ones who are rocking stringers, tank tops, or short shorts often seem more at ease (if you know what I mean 😏) which makes it easier for me to walk up and say hi.

Step 2: The subtle approach
Once you've been seeing each other around for a few weeks, start with a simple greeting. A nod, a quick "hey," or a smile works perfectly. See how they react. If they seem friendly, awesome! If they look like they'd rather be left alone, respect their space and move on.

After a few more weeks of this, you can try one of these simple moves:

•  Ask for a spot: This is a classic for a reason. It's a clear, low pressure request and a great way to start a conversation.

•  Give them a compliment: This is a powerful and easy way to break the ice. It's a great way to make someone's day and show you're paying attention in a positive way.

•  Example 1: "Hey, I always find it a little weird that I see the same people here all the time but never get to know them. I'm [Your Name]. What's yours?" 

• Example 2: "Training legs today? Tough day!" Or, "Do you mind if I work in with you?" Once you're working in together, you can start asking questions like, "How long have you been working out?" or "Is this one of your go to exercises for triceps?" Other guys have also approached me by this.