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Intimacy Between the Holds
Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about what intimacy really means.
People tend to hear that word and immediately jump to something sexual — as if that’s the only form it can take. But the more time I’ve spent wrestling, the more I’ve come to realize that intimacy can live in a completely different space. It’s not always about lust or passion… sometimes, it’s about presence, trust, and connection — the kind that doesn’t need words to be understood.
When I’m locked up with someone on the mats, something happens that goes deeper than just the physical push and pull. There’s this silent chemistry — the way our bodies find rhythm, how breath syncs without even trying, how a moment of stillness between holds can say more than a conversation ever could. You start to feel every subtle shift in energy, every heartbeat, every breath against your skin. It’s not about domination or submission in that instant — it’s about being there, fully, with someone who’s just as tuned in as you are.
There’s an intimacy in that exchange that’s hard to explain to anyone who’s never felt it. It’s not sexual, but it is intimate — almost sacred. It’s the trust of giving someone access to your space, your body, your balance, and knowing they’ll handle it with respect. It’s being vulnerable while still strong, open yet grounded.
Sometimes, when I’m caught in a hold — muscles tightening, skin brushing, heart pounding — I feel this quiet sense of connection. Not lust. Not romance. Just… closeness. The kind that leaves you calm when the match ends, because you’ve shared something real with another person.
People often misunderstand that. They see two guys wrestling and think it must be about power or sex. But to me, it’s about understanding. It’s about meeting someone in that raw, physical space and realizing that intimacy doesn’t have to involve desire — it can simply be the comfort of being known, even for a moment.
There’s a beauty in that.
A chemistry that doesn’t need labels.
A quiet kind of intimacy that only those who’ve truly wrestled can recognize — the kind that lingers long after the last hold is released.
ChrisWrestling (58 )
17 days agoI think what you are experiencing is oxytocin, aka the cuddle hormone
Lovetobecrushed23 (30 )
17 days ago(In reply to this)
I would love to say that your right, but it's not about cuddling. It's about being seen, it's for once in my life I'm being seen and heard and I exist in a world that constantly tries to erase me. I'm sharing something with that person we both have in common.
ChrisWrestling (58 )
17 days ago(In reply to this)
My apologies, though one doesn't have to cuddle to trigger the release of oxytocin. It's one of the theories why people love wrestling so much. I am sorry for not fully understanding the intention of your post.
Lovetobecrushed23 (30 )
17 days ago(In reply to this)
There is no need to apologize misunderstandings happen but we can still discuss it like adults. Your also welcome to Pm me to discuss also
wrestleuCa4Fun (37)
17 days agoWhat a great post . Thanks for sharing your thoughts . I agree with you . It’s a rare few that grasp those feelings for what they are .
SeattleFight (562)
16 days agoThis description really captures it. Hard to put into words, but you did an excellent job!!!
vfitniceguy (9)
16 days agoYou're spot on Mr.
I've also felt that and the great feeling it brings during and afterwards: calm.
No one outside of wrestling gets it, my friend was shocked when I told him I wrestled and how much I enjoyed it, he thought it was a violent sport!
I tried to explain but...
Also, it's the rare time when we men can be purely 'physical' with each other, without falling into the violent (if you're straight that's usually when you get physical with another man) or the sexual (if you're gay).
That's is very sacred to me.
Anyway, thanks for posting, you really capture it!
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tyellis2014 (3)
15 days agoThis was very poetic. Well said!
awill92 (89 )
12 days agoHave to echo what other is saying: This is one of the best description of that feeling wrestling brings when locked up together. Greatly appreciated you were able to put that in words! :)
JJAllen (112 )
12 days agoIs this AI-generated? It feels like that to me, but I'm curiuous if you can let me know
Lovetobecrushed23 (30 )
12 days ago(In reply to this)
nope not AI generated came from me and my brain. Took me 3 hours to write this.
JJAllen (112 )
12 days ago(In reply to this)
nice good to hear that
Speedo501 (5)
12 days agoThank you for your post which explains this so eloquently. There may well be hormones like oxytocin at play, but you have described the emotional and spiritual effects so well. I had not realised before but I now recognise what you describe, as one of the things I love about wrestling. Thank you!
scubawrestler (86 )
6 days agoThis is a very beautiful evaluation and summation of what many of us experience, and have had difficulty putting into words. I've been in the wrestling underground since I was a teen. And I fully relate. Thank you.