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Here we go again folks. This RANT has been in the back of my mind for years only to be brought to the forefront recently. I’m calling out the Picture requesting Whores. Do I have your attention, yet?

Okay! So here’s the situation. You create a Boxing profile on a fight site, Facebook, MySpace (yeah, I know it’s old) whatever the hell. You put up a few pics and you’re like okay. My profile is up I’m looking to attract other boxers to meet up with and such. Then some stalker guy comes along with NO pictures in his profile much less one as his main avatar if that’s even really him and he’s like: “You should post more pics.” WHAT THE FUCK!?!?!?! Dude AIN’T GOT NAM ONE and yet you’re telling me I should post more pics. BITCH PLEASE! You needs to go find you someone else to stalk ‘cause it’s not happening here. Yeah, I know its bad grammar but sometimes you gotta get ghetto on pricks when talking to some of these pathetic wanna be picture whore collectors. I mean like the guy is not even a boxer much less fighter. He probably hasn’t seen a gym with the exception of one on TV and he sits around at home fantasizing over real athletes that actually put time into their bodies and perfecting their craft. And yet he has the nerve to tell someone they need to post more pics. I’d tell the ‘perp’ to kiss my Natural Black Hairy Ass, but he probably like that.

Over the years I’ve had close to a hundred guys ask/tell me to do this and it “Urks” me to no end. The worst of these guys is the ones that have a line in their profile at the bottom of their description that says “No pic, No response.” WTF? I can’t believe this dick wad has the audacity to tell other people that they shouldn’t contact them without a visual representation of themselves and yet they don’t have one to let others know what their possibly getting into. “And I sayeth unto Felicia. BYE!” Where do guys like this get off? And IRL I bet these guys are like “I wonder why I can’t meet anyone.” Probably because their BUTT Ugly and can only lure unsuspecting interests in this way. I specifically know of one guy that posted headless shots on his profile for years. I always wondered why ‘cause his body isn’t bad to look at. Then one day he posted a face shot. Great Googaly Moogaly! Talk about a face only a mother could love. WHOO! Someone had brutalized his head with an ugly bat and didn’t spare the strokes. I read somewhere that you shouldn’t box ugly guys because they have nothing to lose but any one that beat this guy probably wouldn’t be able to get it up afterwards having to look at that mug. I mean he looked like the Great Depression did the Lindy-Hop on his face then tossed him into the 20th Century to fend for himself on his looks alone. I’m surprised this guy hadn’t starved to death yet. After that I thoroughly understood why he cut his head off in his pics. YOUCH!

Also what’s up with the glove in front of your face pose. FYI, this is not a real boxer’s pose. This obvious attempt to hide your face tells the rest of the world two things: 1 – You don’t know how to box since you’re not holding your hands correctly to defend yourself. 2 - That you’re ashamed of your attraction to other men and being into boxing. But think about it, what could be more manly than knowing how to defend yourself in a real fight? Or better still being a gay man and knowing how to handle yourself in a boxing match.

Anyway, I’m not a religious guy but I end with this… “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.” If you want to see a guy in his gear you should have pics of yourself in gear. I can assure you the response will be positive. Anything less and your results will vary negatively.

Comments are welcome but don't be surprised if you get critiqued back.

It's very appropos, that I should be posting this now since I'm being asked about hosting a Boxing Event. So Read ON!

The Gay Boxing Event! Never heard of them? You’re not the only one… these are rare proceedings that occur annually or sometimes semi-annually. In other words they seldom happen if they occur at all. Do you have any idea how hard it is to get two or more gay pugilists in the same city, much less state to show up at an arranged gym meeting to actually oh I don’t know, BOX one another! You’d be better off working on the World Peace thing. Yeah, you can tell I’m heated about this one.

Okay, so well over a decade ago a cool guy with a ring his garage set out to have a Boxing weekend for a few gay boxers that he had been chatting with online for years. He called it Harbor Fight. He had this great idea that it would be cool to actually meet the guys he’d been communicating with and box them IRL (In Real Life) for the older generation. Armed with nothing but the best intentions he hosted the weekend and allowed the few boxers that showed up to box and intermingle. Only five guys, including the host, showed up and it was a GREAT success. In fact the weekend was done again the next year with some variations on the participants. Now these weekends did not go off without some issues. The primary one being the invited participants. Now I have no problem with a guy not being able to attend because he had something previously scheduled, a medical or family emergency but when you contact the host or guests with BS excuses like “I’m scared to box in front of other guys,” “I don’t have all the necessary gear,” “You guys are too skilled for me” or “I can’t go back to work with marks on my face.” WHAT THE FUCK! MAN UP, DUDE! Stop being a bitch and take advantage of this rare convergence of homosexual men that are actually engaging in an uber-masculine sport and completely dispelling the myth that all gay men are created feminine, limp wristed, light in the loafers, feather boa carrying, sissy pants finger pointing punks. Heaven forbid you should show off the skills you supposedly claim that you have in your online sport profile. Live up to YOUR WRITTEN words, if not forever hold your peace. There’s a concept, why hasn’t this been done before? Oh wait! It has been done by the forefathers of this country and those seeking a better way of life to live by, they wrote a Declaration of Independence and a Constitution! If you can’t do as you wrote then you must be one of those “FAKE BOXERS” I’ve ranted about in the past.

Moving on! Years later another event sprang up called Boxing Before Burgers & Beer by an enthusiastic straight pugilist in Illinois. He had no problems boxing guys that did as they said no matter what their sexual orientation was.
As one of the participants from that first Harbor Fight I always dreamed of hosting the event in my home town in the Northeast of the US. In Jan of 2017 I made that wish a reality. I even thought of several ways to improve on the original. I brought vintage boxing gear from my collection, then setup a camera to allow the guys to take pictures looking like the boxers from the late 1800’s – early 1900’s. I gave boxing pointers, tips and even offered to sell copies of my two erotic boxing books. This was the first time such a momentous occasion would occur and it might not happen again. What’s funny is since moving back to the northeast from Atlanta, several guys had been asking me to setup such a thing as they had a great interest in attending.
As we all know GAY men TALK! Even though the event was by invite only word got around that something was going down. Since it was to be held at my gym I had a number of people contacting me asking about it. “Who all is coming?”, “What days are you guys sparring?”, “How many rounds you guys gonna fight? Etc… etc… etc…” I mean they wanted to know every detail. DUDE! Just come and find out for Yourself! Didn’t happen! One of my other guests had someone call him and say “I could drive there but, I don’t have any gear of my own,” and “I don’t have a mouthguard.” If you can drive your ass to the event then you can stop into a Sports Authority or Modell’s and buy some Fucking workout clothes and a Damn mouthguard. Seriously what kind of dumb ass excuse is that? And why the hell are you calling to inform of your ‘possible’ attendance if you can’t pick up a vital piece of equipment. LOOK! I have no problems with guys that are living in their own little fantasy world and imagining what they would like to be doing in whatever scenario. But when you start dragging other people into this make-believe Fairy-Never-Neverland realm and expect them to adhere to these made up rules you’ve created then there’s a serious problem. Keep Yo LAME Wanna Be Weekend Boxer-Warrior Wishful Thinking sorry asses at home and let the real Fighters do what they do best – LIVE LIFE & BOX!

I’m off my soapbox for now. Thanks for reading, you may return to your normally scheduled life. As always comments are welcomed, but they may get critiqued as well.

Okay fellas what’s the deal? I mean, WTF? When did basketball length trunks invade boxing? I believe it was late 1990’s early 2000’s, but still what is this incessant need to wear trunks so long that they nearly impede your leg movement in the ring? Wet silk / satin get’s clingy. If you’re a fleet footed fighter then you know what I’m talking about. And don’t get me started on the idiots I’ve seen wearing Capri pants in the ring. Fashion statement maybe? I say Fashion – IDIOCRACY!

I don’t know about the rest of you… but I grew up watching boxing in the 70’s and 80’s, even then boxers still were faithful to the half naked pugilist code of wearing bootie hugging shorts that practically revealed it all. Okay… so there is no half naked boxer’s code, but many times audiences were not tuning in to see two half naked men box for dominance. They were getting cheap thrills watching the supremely muscled warriors battle in attire similar to that seen at the beach or pool. I’m certain many a gay boxer has the images of fighters long gone battling effortlessly in trunks that didn’t remotely hinder their movements, while allowing the audiences to oogle their uber-masculine physiques as they darted to and fro in an elevated squared circle.

Thankfully current day boxers in the lighter weight classes still pay homage to boxers of the past by wearing classic length shorts when they fight. I’m certain they understand the importance of being able to swiftly move about the canvas as they show their craft. Look at UFC trunks… when they first started there where nothing more than square cut swim trunks. There was a movement to the longer pants but more of the swift maneuver fighters still prefer the traditional shorts. I have to admit getting my cheap thrills watching them.

Obviously you as the reader/boxer or something in between will do as you please. But look at the history of the sport and you will gain a better appreciation for why trunks of such length were chosen in the first place.

Okay my Fellow Pugilists - I'M BACK & I HAVE A QUESTION:

PUNCH CHUMPS what’s up with having to get wasted before engaging in a fight? Yes, you’re gonna lose… but feeling the need to suppress the beating only demeans you and the boxer you’re facing off against. If being worked over truly IS your fetish then you would be embracing the pain and relishing every moment of a boxer’s destructive fists as they made contact. Especially if ultimately your being rendered from consciousness.

As a trained boxer I take pride in my craft. I’ve worked over many a jobber in the ring to the point of KO and bruised them to the point they knew they had been in a fight to not a single mark showed. Often times the only residuals are body soreness and a slight gap in memory from the loss of senses. The first time I encountered a guy that was drunk before I worked him over I let it slide because I wanted the experience as much as he did. The second time I sent him home packing. His intoxication was an insult to the amount of time and effort I put into setting up our meeting and ultimately was a sign of selfishness. He would get his thrills regardless of mine or not. I don’t know how many of you have been in a bar room brawl but the drunks are the first to hit the deck, sometimes regardless of being struck cleanly or not. The RANT includes dudes that like to get drunk before going out in the woods and slinging fists at one another in a pseudo attempt at fighting. What’s the point of having a fight if you don’t remember it at all? Are you bringing someone with you to record the pathetic melee of a match? That is probably the only way either of you is getting a thrill out of it if recall it at all.

FYI, this also applies to the use of other drugs. Whether you know it or not, the human body is the biggest drug pusher/chemical producer on the planet. Your body releases a multitude of suppressants, adrenaline and other compounds that allow you to withstand a variety of situations. Ask a highly skilled Dominant Leather person to demonstrate. I’m certain you’ll be surprised! They adhere to a strict code of Safe, Sane and Consensual. This is to protect you and them from reckless behavior. Any one ignoring this code is quickly ostracized for unsafe behavior. I personally have a strict cold of “Not breaking my toys as they will not come back and play with me anymore.” And if this statement doesn’t make sense to you now it will in time. Enjoy every experience if not all the sensations your body has to give you.

O-KAY! Here I go again! What is it about many of us that are gluttons for punishment? You know who you are because I am amongst you. I refer to those of us, who time and time again seek out other "combative" men to engage in battle. We: establish rules, regulations, gear, mode of operandi and even do a slight background check on the intended opponent. Meaning we asked a friend if he knows anything about the guy. We settle on an arranged time and location and the "perp" never shows. I call him a "perp" because by not showing up he has committed a criminal offense for wasting your considerable amount of time and effort on this. If you recall from my earlier post 9 out of 10 meetings on these sites never happen because many of the guys are masquerading as something they are not. As such it's a wonder anyone even tries to meet someone online. A smart boxer will pick the fights he knows he can win. A brave boxer will choose fights where there is a chance he will lose but will test himself and learn a great deal as he overcomes the adversity. A dumb boxer will fight regardless of the situation or odds. I've come to the conclusion I'm a brave boxer. There's still optimism in my heart because of my great love for the sport. I continue to believe that there are aspiring boxers out there seeking others like me that can help make the journey toward outside and self acceptance a little less rough.

Still it is those nefarious "never-do-wells" that continuously vie for our time and effort only to abuse it without care or regard. To thwart their efforts, I have a "litmus test" and a veteran gay boxing pioneer that I consult with before meeting any fighter. During those times when I'm traveling or visiting other locations I ALWAYS DOUBLE & TRIPLE BOOK fights! One or more guy will ALWAYS cancel! I mean WTF?!?! You're traveling across country or worse overseas and you've been looking forward to meeting this person for countless months only to have him cancel when you finally arrive at the appointed destination. Seriously again W.T.F?!?! Given the price of travel these days and you don't make the effort to fulfill your obligation of at least showing up in person with a lame excuse. Yes, this happened to me once. I was understanding and less pissed but I respected the fact that he had the "balls" to tell me the truth face to face. MAN up Guys! Just cause you’re a gay, homosexual, queen, punk, faggot, queer, light in the loafers kind of guy in one aspect does not mean you can't be an uber-male fighting machine in another. Today many of us are multifaceted handling many different moments in our lives. As such we neither have the time nor excess energy to be wasted on those who cannot live up to their written claims. You only get one shot at life. Do you want to be that resentful old man that sits outside his home, mad at the world because he didn't achieve all the goals he set in his life so he cusses at the world as it goes by or do you want to be the man that seized life by the balls and pushed the boundaries of your accomplishments? CARPE DIEM! Be honest with yourself and your opponent. It will make you a better person.